I never really liked the phrase “You’re his momma and daddy.” I mean…do you really know how much pressure that is for a single mom? Not only do I have to fulfill my my momma duties (which is equivalent to a full time job. I dont care what nobody says), but I have to take on daddy’s too?
No wonder we’re always so stressed, overworked, and on the brink of insanity. Because we feel like we have to do so much!
But what if…now hear me out….what if I told you were dont have to be fathers to our children? What if I told you, that although the person that you depended on being there for your child to play that father role isn’t there, there’s someone that is there that is so much better…
Why do I need be a father when God is the One who actually provides.
My finances, food on the table, the gas to go to and fro, etc. Well you might be thinking, “Jaleccia, we all know that you really do that.” I wish I could take credit for it, but there have been times that I had no idea how my bills were going to be paid and somehow, someway, God has always provided for me exactly when I needed it.
Why do I need to be a father when God is the one who actually protects.
A couple of weeks ago, we were at church for our back to school bash, and they were setting up the basketball goal for the kids. Well the goal started to fall, and my son was right underneath it. This was a big metal pole that fell on my baby’s head and I couldnt get there fast enough to stop it. Some may call it coincidence or luck, but I call it grace and protection. The pole was over just enough to barely hit him on the head, that left a huge bump but could’ve been fatal.
Why do I need to be a father when God is love.
God knows how each and everyone of us needs to be loved, whether we need a mother’s love, a father’s love, love from a significant other….this is who God is. Even if I tried to love cam like a father or just being his mom, I still can’t love him like God can.
My beautiful single mothers. I said all of that to say this. You are not his or her father, and its ok not to be. You weren’t designed for that. You were made to be their mother, and be the best mother you can be. So take that burden off of you and give that to God. He is the best Heavenly Father there is and can fill that role to a tee. He knows everything that your child needs and He will always be there.
The Best Part
Not only does He fill that father role that your child needs, but He also fills that husband role that you need as well. He is support, He is comforting, He is laughter, He’s your shoulder, and He’s your rock. He can be anything you need Him to be, just let Him do it!
5 For your Creator will be your husband; the Lord of Heaven’s Armies is his name! He is your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel, the God of all the earth. -Isaiah 54:5
I know this is a hard concept to grasp on. It’s something that I’m still trying to grab a hold of myself. Once you get it though, and you really give it to Him to take care of…man…life is sweet and so is motherhood. 🙂
Father, I just lift up every mother to you, whether they are single, married, divorced, or widowed. Being a mother is not the easiest job in the world, but Father we know it can be one of the most rewarding. I just pray that you renew all of their strength to raise their kids in the way they should go. Father, the burdens that have been put on single mothers due to the lack of a father, I just pray that you help us surrender that over to you and allow you to be the Father in their lives. We know that you will provide all that we need so we don’t have to stress about being someone that we weren’t called to be. I thank You God for the purpose in each and every woman and the purpose in their children. We love You God and thank You for being the awesome Father You are. We give all the glory and honor. In Jesus Name, Amen
Be Blessed Everyone!
Single Saved Girl